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Coping with Positive Self-Talk

Coping with Positive Self-Talk

Coping with Positive self-talk is how I have recently been adjusting to big changes in my life. I have been in my new apartment now for about 8 weeks and it’s entirely different from living in my home of 17 years. The home that I dearly miss which was consumed by fire. Before I continue, you should know that this post contains affiliate links, which means that if you click on or purchase one of the products links I’ll receive some compensation which will support my addiction to all things coffee.

My front yard was a sanctuary of gardens and a fountain flowing for my feathered friends. A place where my husband and I enjoyed coffee very regularly. But it’s all gone now. Due to an electrical fire that made our home completely unlivable. We only lost about 25% of our belongings. So there wasn’t that much to claim on renters insurance.

Fast Forward

Fast forward to today and we are in an apartment. It’s much more affordable. I have more time to write and no yard work to worry about. The strange part is when I wake up in the mornings and I have forgotten where I am. Oh yes, now I remember, I’m in an apartment. With two kids and two dogs and one husband. It’s almost like a case of mild p.t.s.d. (post-traumatic stress disorder)

My New Coping Skill

I discovered a new coping skill. Talking to myself.  Lol, yes I’m serious.  It’s not really all that new, I’m just willing to admit to doing it.  I seem to have a critical mind and I tend to be too hard on myself.  So, I have decided to tell my inner critic to shut up and let the considerate voice out that has been dominated by criticism for so long.

What’s different? Well, the kindness I am offering myself is very soothing and allows me to see that what I’m doing right now is alright.

Coping with positive self-talk is both calming and encouraging

Give yourself a break. Take a pass on listening to your inner critic.

It’s a New Day

Now, I start my day every morning with a little discussion about how if I’m still tired after I make the bed it would be alright to lay back down for a few minutes on top of the covers. Next, it seems because the bed looks so nice and by the time I’m done I’ve actually become awake enough to move on with my morning.  Before I leave the house, I have two more jobs to do.   I always walk my two shitzus/pekenise, they are very spoiled. One final thing to do before I go, unload the dishwasher. So when I am ready to cook dinner in the evening,  my kitchen is clean and ready to go. Then It’s off to the gym and workout.

My Days are Much Better

I find cooking enjoyable and a way to practice mindfulness every day. Every single time I accomplish even a small task I pat myself on the back with an audible, “good job, I feel better now that I have got that done.”  Next, using a small notebook that instead of a to-do list, I keep an accomplishments list. Let me tell you my accomplishments list is longer and far more satisfying than my to-do list.

Using a journal helps with Coping with positive self-talk

Use a journal to write your daily accomplishments

The new more positive inner voice is so much better than the inner critic, the bossy voice that really was what I spent years listening to. Well, the past is over and I’m reminding myself to take it easy.

Next time you feel your inner critical voice taking over and not cutting you any slack, try coping with positive self-talk. Take a moment to be compassionate with yourself and say the things you need to hear out loud.  It is remarkable how this improves your mood and demeanor.  I like being kinder to myself. I’m so much kinder with others also when I’ve given myself a break.

Coping with positive self-talk brings peace of mind

By coping with positive self-talk, it helps you find inner balance.

 

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Unlock the Secret to The Art of Flirting

 Meeting new people

Unlocking the secret to the art of flirting isn’t as difficult as you may think. It is my intention to help Adults, who are single after divorce or death of a spouse. They may find themselves wondering, “How can I get out there and meet someone new?”  Some people are just naturally social creatures. Flirting seems easy for these people. Have you ever heard the expression, “They’ve never met a stranger”? Before I continue, you should know that this post contains affiliate links, which means that if you click on or purchase one of the products links I’ll receive some compensation which will support my addiction to all things coffee.
Others are not as socially adept.  Introverts, Extroverts, and folks who fall somewhere in the middle can learn the art of flirting. It’s not about having the perfect pick up line or knowing where the perfect place is to go to meet people.
Also, I think we sometimes make things harder than they have to be in life. Wouldn’t you agree, answers to questions have been right in front of us all along the way.
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Conversation Starters

It’s more about being open to meeting new people.  Meanwhile,  I could make you suffer and wait until the end of this post, but I’ll go ahead and share the secret.  First, flirting is nothing more than being friendly. In fact, you don’t need cheesy pickup lines or silly tactics to try to get someone’s attention.
 Just say “Hello. My name is… “You are?” And you are off and running.  Chances are there’s something about the situation you’re both in that will allow you to make small talk.
I am a member of my local YMCA I meet new people there nearly every day.  My friends and I have a shared interest in fitness and we exchange ideas about what works for us at the gym. We share information about classes we like, the equipment we use, and the things we love and hate about working out.
Here are some more ideas to get the conversation going:
  • What do you do?
  • How long have you been doing that?
  • What led you to this line of work?
  • Tell me about your hobbies
  • What’s your favorite food
  • Do you like to cook
  • Don’t forget to smile
 These are a few questions to get you going. Next, you should know an essential part of the conversation is about showing genuine interest, and when you are both engaged in the discussion, the conversation will bloom and come to life.
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Unlock the secret to the art of flirting

Opportunity awaits

Meeting new people is about the opportunity. Furthermore, you have the most opportunities when you open yourself up to try new experiences:
  • Meeting someone through friends and family is one way to find friendship or begin dating.
  • Interestingly, another great way to meet new people is to become a volunteer for a charity or organization you have a heart for helping.
  • If you enjoy learning new things, there are classes at your local college and vocational school where you’ll likely meet someone with very similar interests. Photography, painting and culinary classes come to mind.
  • Opt for dance classes, ballroom, square dancing, hip-hop or line dancing to hear your favorite music and learn new dance steps.
  • Another popular place to consider is golf courses. Not only is golfing great exercise, but it’s also a lovely place to meet people.
  • Ladies, here’s an idea, if your interested in any kind of sport such as;  basketball, baseball, or football, then going to the game may be just the place to meet the guy that could take your game to the next level.
  • Gentlemen, if you enjoy gardening, you might find a local garden club to explore a potential new interest all while learning great tips to improve your gardening skills.

Being Friendly is the key

Being friendly is the key to unlocking the secret to the art of flirting.  Say, “Hi, how are you. You look well today.”  You can tell if someone seems nice and would like to get to know them better.
Please feel free to join this discussion. You might be able to help someone find love or friendship.
Thank you for stopping by,
I’m Karen with Embracing Aging
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10 Natural Healthy Aging Secrets

When it comes to these 10 Natural Healthy Aging Secrets, the key will lie in implementing as many of these as you possibly can. Before I continue, you should know that this post contains affiliate links, which means that if you click on or purchase one of the product links I’ll receive some compensation that will support my addiction to all things coffee. So let’s get started on this fabulous list of anti-aging strategies.

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Plant-based diet

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Research backs up the health benefits of a plant-based diet.  Vegetarians are at a far lower risk for coronary heart disease and the risk continues to decline as they age. A plant-based diet provides tons of antioxidants and anti-inflammatory benefits reducing joint pain and preventing diseases related to aging.

Diseases such as type 2 diabetes, hypertension, and inflammation which contributes to the development of cancer.  Lowering bad cholesterol (LDL) is key in controlling the before mentioned diseases. Also worth mentioning is sticking to a plant-based lifestyle can prevent cognitive decline allowing us to be sharp as we age.

Even if we don’t go full-on vegan today the science shows that adding in lots of vegetables is one of the smartest things we can do for our health.

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Grow your own food

Grow as much of your own food as you can care for and have room for.  This includes growing space and storage space.  When we have our own gardens, we know what’s in our food.  We don’t have to know what pesticides, fertilizers, and sprays were used to grow our food.

A lovely backyard garden gives us the opportunity to have fresh organic produce and the benefit of exercise that comes with garden maintenance.  Being outside in the fresh air and sunshine is not only good for the produce growing in your garden but is essential for your well being as well.  Being outside gives you some exposure to a critical vitamin that you get from the sun which is vitamin D.

There are so many great gardening resources online that finding good gardening tips, tricks, and hacks make gardening a really fun and healthy hobby.

Did you know that when a patient is admitted to the hospital having a heart attack, they are given an injection of 100,000 mcg of D3? This not only helps a patient during the episode but also improves the rate of repair and healing after the episode. (Read more about this research here) You should know that the further away from the equator you are the more likely you are to need to take a vitamin D3 supplement.  Between being outside and taking a supplement your vitamin D3 needs should be covered.

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Do more and automate less

This can be as simple as taking the stairs instead of the elevator.  Wash your own car, instead of driving through the car wash. Ride a bike and drive a little less often. Have a park nearby? Walk instead of drive.  Whatever you can do to move your body more, the better off you will be.

Americans love their convenient lifestyle. For example, driving to the corner market for milk and eggs, tossing a healthy frozen entree into the microwave for lunch, or hiring the local teenager to mow the yard and finally, drive-through coffee. We are used to having so much at our convenience that it’s just expected.

Sometimes a gym can help when you need an easy way to get exercise. A home gym or a public gym or both are excellent options.

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Staying Employed or Volunteering

Keeping busy and feeling useful is paramount when it comes to anti-aging.  I have heard several accounts where a family friend retired from work. The next thing you know, their mental and physical health rapidly declined because a sense of purpose had been lost.

Isolation after retirement is a problem.  Everyone needs to feel connected and have a sense of belonging.  Along with this same line of thinking is the need to learn and to feel that we are continuing to develop and grow.

Naturally, the first line of defense is to retain physical health and strength to be able to enjoy part-time work or volunteering for a cause that we’re passionate about.  The remedy to physical frailty is strength training not to become a bodybuilder or to look like Schwarzenegger, but to be able to continue to do daily tasks without feeling fatigued and tiredness.  Too tired to work out?  Start slow and build on that.  Before you know it you’ll have some stamina and motivation to keep going forward with a sensible workout plan.

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Maintain an active Social life.

Number 5 is related to number 4.  People who live to be 100 reports have a strong sense of belonging and connectedness.  They report often that this is found in an organized spiritual community, that could be a church or mosque or synagogue.  Whatever way you choose to be connected to the community will be the way that is best for you. Don’t be afraid to try new things, but also don’t go too far out of your comfort zone either.  What we are looking for is a comfortable fit with a community of like-minded friends a community that is relatable to your core values.

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Be sure to get extra vitamin C.

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This is the number one secret to firmer skin and fewer wrinkles. Vitamin C is a fundamental molecule for skins ability to make collagen. Using vitamin C in a topical application as well as in one’s diet is the ultimate defense in skins ability to promote cellular turnover.  Sun damage is repaired more efficiently with extra vitamin C. This is because this vitamin is a powerful antioxidant.  Oxidative stress caused by free radicals and environmental pollution can accelerate the damage to chronically exposed skin like our hands and faces.

Vitamin C is a water-soluble vitamin and we must have a steady stream of it to make a difference in the health of our skin.  A two-fold approach is best; using quality supplements and topical vitamin C serum is the ticket.

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Hydrate but not with just water

You need to keep a steady stream of electrolytes going throughout your system. Let me explain.  I drink a lot of coffee, therefore I am going to the bathroom often.  After a while coffee doesn’t do for me what it did in the beginning and that is because I have depleted my electrolytes.  Calcium, magnesium, potassium and sodium chloride a the common electrolytes.  When these are added to water electricity is created, the kind that gives us our energy.

These charged minerals are really important for the proper functioning of the body. Our muscles need electrolytes to proper contract and that includes our heart muscle.  Blood pressure is better when our electrolytes are in balance.  So go ahead and hydrate, but do be mindful of your body’s need for electrolytes found in enhanced waters and many sports drinks.

Mild dehydration can cause you to eat when you are thirsty and that causes overeating and snacking and grazing. Next, calories sneak up on you. When you think you’re doing alright but in reality, all you need to do to take control is to increase your water game. When I started drinking the minimum required amount of water 64 oz, I literally quenched my hunger and gone was my desire to sometimes feed thirst with food.  I essentially uncrossed my wires.  Instead of reaching for water, sometimes I reached for food, usually something sweet.

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Strength Training for muscle and bone care

Strength training improves bone density.  Which in turn improves balance and as we age we become more vulnerable to injury if we fall.  So with strong bones and muscles and good balance, we are more likely to catch ourselves when we fall.  Prevention really is the best medicine. Strength training decreases your risk for osteoporosis since strong muscles make for strong bones.

Healthy muscles also keep our body shape looking attractive.  When we look good, it’s a wonderful confidence booster.  One last perk from strength training is a healthy sex drive.  A healthy sex drive goes a long way to helping everyone feel youthful.

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Control inflammation

The first thing to do when it comes to fighting inflammation is to look at what you are consuming.  Different people are sensitive to different kinds of food.  A good example is gluten.  You don’t have to have Celiac disease to have a sensitivity to gluten.  Gluten is very inflammatory, but it is also very prevalent in our food.

So when replacing an inflammatory food with an anti-inflammatory food is to make it easy.  Like spaghetti, for instance, trade regular spaghetti for a gluten-free spaghetti.  It’s a great way to start down the path of what to find in the way of anti-inflammatory foods.  The same goes for vegetable oil, an easy swap is an olive oil, a much healthier choice.

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Get a better nights sleep

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If you naturally sleep on your back, then I’ve got good news for you.  Sleeping on your back allows gravity to work for you and not against you.  It prevents wrinkles, neck and back pain and helps prevent sagging breasts.

Keep the temperature of the bedroom comfortably cool.  This allows for sound quality sleep.  Do use a small fan for white noise to block the sound of outside noise.  This works great for me due to the fact that I live in the city and I hear ambulances and motorcycles in the middle of the night.

Consider sleeping naked. It will keep you free from getting bound up in pajamas or nightgowns. Plus you’ll have an extra special bond with your partner that is healthy as can be for both of you.

Get enough sleep. Lack of sleep increases stress, which increases inflammation.  Tiredness leads to accidents and probably too much caffeine consumption.  Sleep is important for healthy radiant skin.  Cellular turn over occurs while we sleep and not just for skin, but for the entire body.  So get your beauty rest.  It’s very good for you.

That’s all for today friends.

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You Are Your Own Best Resource

You Are Your Own Best Resource

You are your own best resource. What the heck does that even mean?  Well, it means that if you don’t take care of yourself, who’s going to take care of the important things that you do? Before I continue, you should know that this post contains affiliate links, which means that if you click on or purchase one of the product links I’ll receive some compensation that will support my addiction to all things coffee. The kids, the job, the dishes, walk the dog. Whatever it is your doing there are folks or fur babies that count on you to be there for them on a regular basis.

It doesn’t mean that you put your head down and put your nose to the grindstone.  I’ll work harder, longer, faster and so on and so forth.  Rather there are ways to use positivity to motivate us to take care of ourselves better.  I’d like to use weight loss as an example of how we can take care of ourselves as a resource.   Let me rephrase THE resource.  You are the only you, you have to take care of you so you can take care of the things and the people you love.

There are positive ways to better take care of ourselves besides listening to the negative criticism in our heads. We have tools that we need to use that are underutilized. In these next few paragraphs, I discuss these tools we can use to help ourselves.

Visualization

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Visualize yourself being successful every day.

Visualizing the successful events of our day can go a long way in making them a reality.  Take five minutes of the first wakeful moments of your morning and think about how you want your day to go begin with positive images of accomplishing your goals at your job or the gym. Decide to be happier as you go about your day. You’ll be pleased with the outcome that visualization can give you.

Making a List of Your Accomplishments Daily

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Making a list of your accomplishments is very motivating. Sometimes this works better than a to-do list.

I use a to-do list like a  lot of people use. But I also use an accomplishments list and to be perfectly honest, my accomplishments list is my secret weapon when it comes to getting things done.  I would rather write down my accomplishments than using my to-do list every time I have to keep track of things that need to get done. I am more motivated and gain more momentum for getting things done by making an accomplishments list.

Regular Exercise

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Regular exercise gives you the energy for taking care of the people and the things you love.

If you are not already doing some form of regular exercise, you should start a routine that works for you. Exercise is key to growing older gracefully.  Carrying groceries inside, opening jars, performing regular household chores like cleaning and yard work will be easier for you to do if you get some regular exercise.  As you do regular exercise it helps you maintain muscle and muscle memory, like riding a bike

Regular exercise helps you sleep much more soundly and wake up with more energy to take on the day. “Carpe diem,” I say.  Walking is always great, and if you need to start by just walking to the end of your driveway then that’s ok, it’s a start.  You can build up to a walk around the block and the next thing you know you will be walking a mile and maybe even two.

Keeping Properly Hydrated

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Hydration is far too important to neglect. So drink up buttercup.

I can not say enough about good hydration.  Your body needs water and electrolytes. It needs water for energy, for mental clarity and you should know that your body needs proper hydration for healing.  Healing wounds and illnesses and disease.  We make a substance called plasma and its vital to our health and the quality of our plasma is enhanced by good hydration.  So run, don’t walk to your nearest refreshing water resource and drink up.  Your body needs it and you’ll be so much better for it.

Good Nutrition

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Grilled salmon with lemon and rosemary. Good nutrition is delicious

Everyone needs an occasional pizza but not all the time.  Fueling your body with healthy fruits and vegetables is one of the most powerful ways to save your health.  Fruits and vegetables give you not only vitamins but they are also a good source of water.  Yep, that’s right, they can help you hydrate your body.

Make sure you incorporate a variety of colors. Each of the colors of the rainbow represents different vitamins and minerals.  Red= lycopene, Orange = Vitamin C,  Yellow = Vitamin A,  Green = iron and fiber,  blue=powerful antioxidants,  purple=reservatol and so much more. This is only a small example of all the nutrients you need for vitality.

If you think you have room for improvement in your diet, you get to start with your next trip to the grocery store and browse the produce aisle for fruits and veggies that you enjoy and should try to incorporate into your diet more often. You’ll be glad you did. Remember when you are busy consuming healthy fruits and vegetables your less likely to want to eat the junk food that offers you nothing but momentary relief from a sugary or a salty craving.

Proper Rest and Relaxation

Don’t forget to rest. A good bedtime routine and regular bedtime help you feel rested after 6-8 hours of sleep at night. I know it’s so easy to sit on the phone past bedtime.  I myself am guilty of staying up typing on my blog.  Writing and thinking about what I want to share and how I can inspire others to Embrace their Age and live a life of vitality.  You are your own best resource. When you are in good working order, things around you and the things that you take care of will be better.

Make yourself a priority.  You deserve to be energetic, vital and bright.  I encourage you to try to do what you can to feel your best.

That’s all for today friends.

I hope you enjoyed this discussion. Please share your thoughts and, feel free to leave your comments and share this post with friends.

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Marriage is like a Roller Coaster Ride

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Remember you’re in this for the long haul.

Marriage is like a Roller Coaster Ride

Marriage is like a Roller Coaster Ride. Well, here’s how my husband and I have stayed on this Roller Coaster Ride of marriage for nearly 27 years.  In the early years, there were children, 3 total. His mine and ours. 13 years later we had one more, a delightful boy, an unexpected looptyloop in the rollercoaster ride. Crazy but fun.

We made the decision that I would be a stay at home mom and he would work to support us. That was not the picnic we thought it would be. The long uphill climb on our Roller Coaster Ride.  It was a lot like being a single parent. He had to work two jobs most of the time to keep bills paid.

Couples need Date Nights

We were fortunate that we had grandparents in town to help give us a break once in a while so we could have an evening out together. That turned out to be really important because I look back and I see how date night refreshed us.  I highly recommend all married couples/partners, by all means, plan date nights. You deserve that special time alone together.

How I created more income

Later I decided that we could have more income if I opened our home and cared for more children. My poor exhausted husband could come home at 5:00 p.m. instead of rushing off to a second job. Starting the daycare helped but it wasn’t perfect.

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I added a few more riders when I opened a home daycare.

The family home was now a business and the kids had to help with cleaning.  Helping also included playing the occasional game with daycare kids. My daughter was in middle school at the time and begged me to give up the daycare.  She wanted me to herself and she wanted our home back to a more peaceful state. It was official I had added more riders to our already crazy Roller Coaster Ride.

There were a few problems

We had 2 small indoor dogs and my husband was a smoker. These situations made my job as a childcare provider an uphill battle. My daughter begged me to give up the daycare.  My two older high school-aged boys really didn’t care because they were busy doing other after-school activities away from the house.

We had to give and take a lot.

I thought I had the right to expect my husband to quit smoking. Well, he never asked me to open our home as a daycare, it was after all my idea. He was a smoker when we met and when we married. He’s a smoker to this day. I’m not thrilled about it, I thought he’d outgrow it.  But it’s his journey and he has to decide for himself.

Now don’t get me wrong, he was considerate and smoked outside during business hours. But it was after all his house too and he smoked during evenings and weekends at his desk. But there was a lingering odor.   Long story short I realized the daycare business wasn’t the best fit for my family.

Everyone is ultimately on their own path

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Ultimately we are all on our own path. But we can help each other along the way.

Everyone married or not is on their own path.  All of us have our own journey to travel.  But as married couples and partners, it is important that we understand that some things on our journey have to be done by one’s own self. Like the decision to quit smoking or lose weight.  Yes we can support one another and yes we should negotiate, but when it came right down to it, we all had to compromise so that I could make an income to support our family. This is the craziest part of the Roller Coaster Ride where we just had to hold on and don’t let go.

There came a time when I was able to let the daycare go. I had made friends with families and their children. We made some great memories as well.  But we as a family were able to rearrange our boundaries for the time that I needed to help bring in extra income. We were closer and stronger as a family and we came through it just fine.

That’s been the nature of our marriage after all these years.  We’ve become good at the give and take in the circumstances of our lives that needed reordering.

The secret of staying married

For us, the secret of staying married longer has been the willingness to be flexible.  The willingness to let one have more than the other for a time. We weren’t willing to quit during difficult times, but we were willing to work together. Sometimes we had to put our hands in the air and ride it out. We made it to the other side.

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Like a knot in your shoelace, you can work it out

We come upon life situations that are like untieing a bad knot in shoelaces and you just have to sit there and work through it. Once you get things sorted out you come out on the other side relieved and grateful that you didn’t give up.

So I challenge you to stick it out. Not through an abusive relationship that’s something altogether unacceptable. We as couples and families can ride out the tough times together. So hold on to one another and don’t quit. You can do this.

That’s all for today friends.

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Productivity is The Name of the Game

Productivity is Name of the Game

Productivity is the name of the game

You can hit the target.

Productivity is the name of the game. That’s right.  You wake up at 5:00 a.m. and there’s this little window of opportunity, of hope that it’s going to be an amazing day. Before I continue, you should know that this post contains affiliate links, which means that if you click on or purchase one of the product links I’ll receive some compensation that will support my addiction to all things coffee.

If you don’t harness that bit of momentum by doing something constructive, you might miss the opportunity to set the tone for a very productive day.  I don’t know about you, but I have missed my share of moments thanks to procrastination and hitting the snooze button one too many times and I don’t want to lose any more bits of momentum.  Give me all the help I can get when it comes to productivity.

If productivity is the name of the game, then it’s important to have a game plan.  I’ll share mine with you.  I had to move to an apartment due to a house fire. Thank the good Lord we’re all fine.  But it shook up my entire life and I have had to think differently.  Somethings just aren’t as convenient as they used to be and other things are a lot more convenient than they were.

When I wake up

When I wake up in the morning, one of the first things I do is make the bed.  It’s fast easy and allows me to see a big difference in the appearance of the room.  This motivates me more.  I timed myself, I can make the bed in under 3 minutes. Pillows and all. You know all the decorative pillows that guys just throw on the floor? then they look at you with the What?? face.

Next, I put on my gym clothes and walk my dogs.  I an apartment, there’s no more opening the back door to let the dogs out to go potty.  The fact that I have to walk them every morning actually helps me wake up better.  I continue to think about the upcoming events of my day.

Establish a flexible daily  routine

When I get upstairs I unload the dishwasher.  Now for your sanity and mine, I’ll share the rest in bullet points.

  • set something out thaw for dinner
  • put my hair up, drive to the gym
  • work out 2 hours
  • back home
  • vacuum and tidy up my apartment
  • check the kids’ rooms and let them know what they need to get done
  • I walk the dogs
  • I nap 30-45 minutes on the couch
  • start afternoon coffee
  • prep dinner
  • cook dinner
  • eat dinner
  • I watch one hour of t.v. with my kids and that is all the t.v. I allow myself.
  • hubs is sweet and do the dishes after dinner
  • I walk the dogs
  • I blog from 5:30p.m.-9:00p.m. roughly
  • Go to bed somewhere between 9:00 p.m. and 10 p.m.

This is a pretty good schedule for me. But, it varies on different days,  but this is the skeleton of my schedule.

The secret for me to have a focused day is to have certain things in place that never change.  I always have certain things that I do that help to keep me on course. For me, it’s these 5 things.  These 5 things are like road markers, they allow me to see where I am now and where I am headed next because after all productivity is the name of the game.

Create set events that occur at the same time every day

First, I make the bed, work out at the gym, walk the dogs, plan dinner, then blog. I don’t know why this works for me it just does. For me, its the flow of sitting,  standing and walking.

Do use a planner. Later, sometime during blogging hours I’ll stop and view my planner so I can see what the next day is going to be like.  I spend Sundays in a comfortable corner blogging out the details of my week. You can read more about that here.

Always make time to check your planner.

Make time to check your planner.

I highly recommend adding to your day certain specific markers that propel you into the next part of your day. You’ll see you will find that this will keep you moving forward. You should also know, I’m not perfect at the game of productivity but man it sure has gotten a lot better than it ever was before I had these 5 markers in my game plan.

Productivity is the name of the game. EmbracingAging.us

Listen, let me give you a couple of clues.  There are things that you are already doing every day that can serve as a marker for you. I’m not a smoker but that’s actually an example of someone who takes smoke breaks and then goes back to work.  For me, it’s walking my dogs.  Or how about your every mid-morning 10:00 a.m. cup of coffee. Tack on a few more of these types of markers and you’ll be winning Productivity is the name of the game.

That’s all for today friends.

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A Comfortable Corner

A Comfortable Corner

When I have a comfortable corner that is all my own, a place to think and plan my days and weeks, it allows me to settle into my comfy chair and focus on the task at hand.  Before I continue, you should know that this post contains affiliate links, which means that if you click on or purchase one of the product links I’ll receive some compensation that will support my addiction to all things coffee.

What exactly do I mean?  I like to get a coffee and a candle for my lamp table my favorite ink pen and my favorite planner.  When it comes to planners I do use a very specific planner aka as The Happy Planner.

A comfortable Corner for planning and Contemplation

I cannot get enough of the Happy planner

The most wonderful thing about this planner is, it comes out twice a year and that makes me so happy (pardon the pun). First, it comes out in January next, it comes out again in July.  For me, this was perfect because I have kids in school. I prefer the school year planner. I have to keep up with tests and quizzes, field trips and school functions and all the school events that go on throughout the year.

Mom and More

My mom hat is the hat I wear the majority of the time. I’m also a 52-year-old blogger.  A planner helps me plan my posts, jot down my ideas and contemplate productivity and efficiency.

Up Next, Physical Fitness

Going to the gym is a priority.  I am fortunate that I have 2 gyms to go to these days.  My first love is the YMCA.  I try to plan my gym schedule and go 3-4 days a week.  Next, when I can’t get away from home because I’m blogging or just busy doing the mom thing I have a gym here at my apartment complex.  This is so convenient and makes it easier to stick to a schedule.  I actually just now got back from the gym.  Since it’s Saturday morning my son who is 18 and very health-conscious said, “Hey Mom take a little break from blogging and workout with me.”   So I did and it was a really good workout. I had planned on going later today, but, since I got an invitation to go, I took my son upon his invitation and now I can mark that one off the list.

A Comfortable Corner on Sunday

I am so looking forward to my planning time tomorrow morning.  I’ll have my coffee, planner, overstuffed chair, and my favorite pen to plan out my next week. I also love using some of the motivational stickers you can get to go with the Happy Planner.

Try switching up a few things to make a place just for you to collect your thoughts and make plans.  A nice fragrant candle reminds me to meditate or pray about my upcoming week.  The chair needs to be comfy. Add a pillow or a super soft throw to make your corner extra cozy.  I choose Sunday mornings because they are quiet and peaceful.  But if you don’t like it too quiet try to put on some of your favorite music to listen to as you make your notes and plans.

Use a comfortable chair for your Comfortable Corner

Add a pillow for coziness

Here’s to this upcoming week, I hope you enjoy your time making plans and thinking of ways to do all the things you love to do better and in a timely way.

 I hope you found this blog post helpful.

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In brown print is the first letter of every word in the first paragraph of the Declaration of Independence

Sharpen Your Memory

Sharpen Your Memory

Sharpen your memory by using various techniques:

  • Focus/being present
  • Memory Palace
  • Index Cards ( it’s not what you think)
  • Batching /Chunking
  •  Sensory

Hocus, Pocus, Focus

First, I want to get into some effective techniques for sharpening our memories. Before I continue, you should know that this post contains affiliate links, which means that if you click on or purchase one of the product links I’ll receive some compensation that will support my addiction to all things coffee.

Focus and being present. Furthermore, being focused will allow us an easier time remembering why we went in the next room, for example, car keys.  (keeping track of my keys was my focus)Now, instead of tossing the keys on the nearest table, counter, or desk, I designated a specific location for my keys to go as soon as I walked into the house. Finally, losing my sanity is another thing I do not want to have to hunt down, so paying a little attention to what we are doing is worthwhile.

 

car keys on a desk

Where are my keys? Paying closer attention to this allowed me to stop yelling at my family, “I can’t find my keys!!” Reducing everyone’s stress level significantly. When you walk into the room and you forget why you came in the room. My husband call’s it “hereafter syndrome”  “What am I hereafter???”. LOLBeing fully present at the moment really helps make a difference and we’re better able to remember what we’re doing and why.

Sharpen your memory with the memory palace

This technique is not new, but it is a great one.  Essentially you visualize your house and all the rooms in it. Next, you place items in each room that you specifically want to remember. For me, this works well with a grocery list.  I can memorize a long list of grocery items by placing them in the rooms of the house.  Then I mentally walk through the rooms of my house and I remember the things I needed to pick up from the store.

Memorize paragraphs with this neat technique

I like to use index cards for this technique and different colors of ink in my personal opinion,  this technique is great for students and anyone who needs to memorize a script. Let me use the Declaration of Independence as an example of how this method works.

Sharpen your memory. In green print is the first letter of every word in the first paragraph of the Declaration of Independence

Sharpen your memory by abbreviating the first letter of each word in the Declaration of Independence shown as an example.

index card showing the first letter of each word in brown on an index card using the Declaration of Independence as an example.

Abbreviate using the first letter of each word in the second paragraph of the Declaration of Independence in this example.

As you can see above, in green are the first letter of each word in the first paragraph of the Declaration of Independence. “When in the course of human events it becomes necessary for…etc.”

Next, on the second index card, in brown, is the first letter of each word in the second paragraph. Then as you continue making your index cards, each paragraph on its own card is a different color, blue, red or purple whatever you like. Personally, I plan to use this method to memorize vocabulary words in Spanish. Learning another language is another excellent way to keep your brain exercised and sharp.

Batching or Chunking

Memorizing in batches is a good way to remember lots of information.  Phone numbers are memorized in batches. First three numbers and then four.

When I was a kid, my mom taught me the books of the bible.  We (my brother and I) learned them in chunks or batches. Four books at a time. Mathew, Mark, Luke, John.  Then the next four, Acts, Romans, I and II Corinthians Galatians, and so on. Students can use this technique for memorizing vocabulary or terminology.

Music is an Excellent Tool for a Sharper Memory

Preschoolers learn very quickly and efficiently with music.  Sharpen your memory by taking a lesson from them. When I was teaching my granddaughter the days of the week, we sang the days of the week to the Adams Family theme song.  Here let me plant this in your head, lol.  Days of the week (clap clap) days of the week (clap clap) There’s Sunday and there’s Monday, Tuesday and there’s Wednesday, Thursday, and there’s Friday and then there’s Saturday. Days of the week.( clap.) Now everybody sings along!

When that song comes on the radio and launches you back in time to your high school and college days, that’s another example of how powerful music is to memory.  We remember people, places, and events oftentimes because of the music played at those moments.  This is known as sensory memory. This brings us to our next tool for sharper memory.

Sensory memory

  • There are certain foods that I love that remind me of my childhood, Usually something my mom made that I now cook for my own family. I always use her goulash recipe.
  • My husband’s cologne, I know that fragrance anywhere and it makes me think of him. (Old Spice)
  • When I hear “The Cars” on the radio, I’m transported back to the eighties.
  • Purple is the color my daughter and I remember most about the way I dressed her as she was growing up. It was my favorite color, but she avoids it like the plague because she had so many outfits that were purple. Lol

There’s a dark and scary side to sensory memory. It’s PTSD post-traumatic stress disorder and is brought about by a bad experience so ingrained in one’s memory, they are traumatized.  Just like with good memories, these traumatic memories will have triggers that cause a scary and fearful reaction in the individual.

On a happier note, childbirth is such an intense experience that mothers can tell their story from start to finish without missing a single detail.  Every time I tell my story ( I have three kids that I gave birth to and one I adopted) I relive the experience like it was yesterday.

New York City beams of light where the twin towers where

Breaking news can impact memory

  • You remember where you were and what you were doing on 9/11.
  • While I was in my kitchen folding some laundry, watching The Young and the Restless at the time when they broke the news Princess Dianna died.

Interestingly, news events can be permanently stamped into your memory and can make an impact.

Associating memories with sensory experiences will make those newly created memories stickier and allow you to remember important information longer.

In conclusion

That’s all for today.  If you found this post helpful please feel free to share and let me know what you think about this subject.

 

I’m Karen with Embracing Aging,

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