Coping with Positive Self-Talk
Coping with Positive self-talk is how I have recently been adjusting to big changes in my life. I have been in my new apartment now for about 8 weeks and it’s entirely different from living in my home of 17 years. The home that I dearly miss which was consumed by fire. Before I continue, you should know that this post contains affiliate links, which means that if you click on or purchase one of the products links I’ll receive some compensation which will support my addiction to all things coffee.
My front yard was a sanctuary of gardens and a fountain flowing for my feathered friends. A place where my husband and I enjoyed coffee very regularly. But it’s all gone now. Due to an electrical fire that made our home completely unlivable. We only lost about 25% of our belongings. So there wasn’t that much to claim on renters insurance.
Fast forward to today and we are in an apartment. It’s much more affordable. I have more time to write and no yard work to worry about. The strange part is when I wake up in the mornings and I have forgotten where I am. Oh yes, now I remember, I’m in an apartment. With two kids and two dogs and one husband. It’s almost like a case of mild p.t.s.d. (post-traumatic stress disorder)
My New Coping Skill
I discovered a new coping skill. Talking to myself. Lol, yes I’m serious. It’s not really all that new, I’m just willing to admit to doing it. I seem to have a critical mind and I tend to be too hard on myself. So, I have decided to tell my inner critic to shut up and let the considerate voice out that has been dominated by criticism for so long.
What’s different? Well, the kindness I am offering myself is very soothing and allows me to see that what I’m doing right now is alright.
It’s a New Day
Now, I start my day every morning with a little discussion about how if I’m still tired after I make the bed it would be alright to lay back down for a few minutes on top of the covers. Next, it seems because the bed looks so nice and by the time I’m done I’ve actually become awake enough to move on with my morning. Before I leave the house, I have two more jobs to do. I always walk my two shitzus/pekenise, they are very spoiled. One final thing to do before I go, unload the dishwasher. So when I am ready to cook dinner in the evening, my kitchen is clean and ready to go. Then It’s off to the gym and workout.
My Days are Much Better
I find cooking enjoyable and a way to practice mindfulness every day. Every single time I accomplish even a small task I pat myself on the back with an audible, “good job, I feel better now that I have got that done.” Next, using a small notebook that instead of a to-do list, I keep an accomplishments list. Let me tell you my accomplishments list is longer and far more satisfying than my to-do list.
The new more positive inner voice is so much better than the inner critic, the bossy voice that really was what I spent years listening to. Well, the past is over and I’m reminding myself to take it easy.
Next time you feel your inner critical voice taking over and not cutting you any slack, try coping with positive self-talk. Take a moment to be compassionate with yourself and say the things you need to hear out loud. It is remarkable how this improves your mood and demeanor. I like being kinder to myself. I’m so much kinder with others also when I’ve given myself a break.
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I’m Karen with Embracing Aging,
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